Hours away from Surgery

When Jon first blew his knee out eight years ago, he was having trouble sticking with his physical therepy. We were only dating at the time. But he was on a cane, and the doctor felt he should have been off of it, or at least making more progress. So on a date, at a movie, I think Titan A. E., he was gloomy and convinced he would never walk without the cane again. I told him that if he would do his physical therapy religiously, and get better I would take him to England and we would climb the Tor in Glastonbury together. He didn’t believe me. He gave me that look. The one that says, no one would be serious about that. You’re kidding. I gave my look back. The one that you either come to value and love, or dread. It depends on why you’re getting the look, I guess. I gave him the look that means that I absolutely mean what I say, every word. I gave him my promise. He finally believed me. He did his physical therapy, and a couple of years later, we took Trinity, Jon’s parents, and us, and we all climbed the Tor. It was a magical vacation.

I asked Jon what mountain he wanted me to pick this time for him to climb when he is all better. He thought about it, and finally decided he wanted a return trip to Glastonbury. I can live with that. So, when he’s all better, and we can get our affairs in order we’ll be back in England. Because I mean what I say, and say what I mean, and if you can get me to give you my word, I will keep it. Old fashioned? Maybe. But if your promise isn’t worth anything, then are you? I’ve never thought so.

I’ve got to go get Jon up and around for going to the hospital. Eek! But this day is the beginning of our next trip to England. I will hold onto that. No, wait, the beginning of the trip was the moment my husband turned those blue eyes, with their up-tilted edges, so exotic, and those ginger lashes to me, and said, "I’ll take a return trip to Glastonbury." What did I say, with those eyes, that face, my love, gazing into my eyes? "Deal."

Real romance isn’t always about poetic phrases, or saying out loud everything you’re feeling. Some of the most real romance in the world is about being able to count on each other. Give me stability, dependability, over all the long stem roses in the world. I can buy my own damn roses, but I can’t buy a man who truly loves me, and is truly dependedable. A price above rubies, and all that.

October: Week 2 continued

Jon has developed a tolerance to his pain meds. We noticed that last night when he couldn’t sleep, and thus I couldn’t sleep. Now, some people might suggest that I do the practical thing and sleep in the other bedroom so at least one of us can sleep. Ah, you unromantic souls, you. Jon and I have only slept apart one night in seven years. Tomorrow is Jon’s knee operation, so it seems like tonight would not be the night to break that streak. We are both looking forward to him being able-bodied again, but I admit to some nervousness about the operation itself. He’s my sweetie, so I’m allowed.

And yes, I am still working on the next Anita book: SKIN TRADE. I’ve averaged seven pages a day since Archon finished up on Sunday. I’m doing interviews for SWALLOWING DARKNESS which hits the shelves on November 4th, Election Day.

I’m fixing dinner as I type this. Timer is about to go off. Wish us good luck for tomorrow.

October: Week 2

I was pretty tired when I wrote the blog last night, so I missed a couple of things. First, thanks to Compy who pitched in at the last signing, after everyone else had to fly back home. All those signings she’d attended, were like on the job training. Thanks again. Thanks also to John the Archon Security person. He backed-up Charles at the signings and also did everything he could to make it run smoothly.

I had to take Jon to urgent care yesterday. Turns out he sprained his foot at the con. His good foot. So, yes, one leg has the knee brace and an operation scheduled this week, and the other foot is sprained. Pretty badly sprained. October is turning out to be a very . . . full month. Yes, that is sarcasm. What I’m really thinking is what the f**ck? Here’s hoping the rest of the month is a little less full.

October: Week One

October has been a busy little month and we haven’t even hit double digits yet. Eek!

October 1st I was the keynote speaker at the Missouri Library Association conference. The speech went well, and it was wonderful to be around so many people that love books. Librarians rock! Hey to Ann, whose fault it all was for asking me to attend some three years ago. Jon bought a walker with a seat so he could use it at the conference. Standing is the worst thing for his knee, and he goes in for surgery very soon.

October 2nd knee more swollen. So much so, that Jon agreed that we should rent a wheelchair for him. You know when a man says, yes, to something like that, he’s hurting. Same thing for the walker, I guess. So, when we picked up friends, Wendi and Daven, from the airport Jon was in his new wheels. Took them to check in at the hotel and met Charles in the lobby. Archon had officially begun, though opening ceremonies wouldn’t be until the next day. Charles wanted to take us all around to room parties, but with the Jon’s knee, and Wendi having her own bad knee we stayed with our spouses, and we just all visited in the room where our spouses could sit down and rest their wounded limbs. Jon’s knee surgery is next week and Wendi’s is in a few weeks; our poor wounded darlings.

October 3rd Jon woke up with the knee even worse. So bad we doubted whether he was going to the con, at all. Not good. Daven had offered to be a minion. I’d sort of laughed it off, and said, they should just have fun at the con. That morning I was not laughing. That morning I called Daven and asked if the offer to be our minion was still on. He said, he’d meant it, what did I need. I told him about Jon, and he said they, he and Wendi, would meet us in the lobby. We called Charles, of course, too, but he couldn’t be security and keep an eye out for threats, and help me take care of Jon. I needed more hands on deck. Lucky for me, I had them.

I honestly don’t know what I would have done if Daven and Wendi had not been there. I just wish I had a picture of Daven pushing Jon in the wheelchair. Both of them in their utilita kilts, boots the first day (Jon would have to loose the boots next day, too heavy), black Goth t-shirts, long hair braided, and both just so cute. Wendi and I did a lot of trailing after them. Wendi did a lot of knitting, too, though not while we were trailing after the chair. They are boys, and the wheelchair could move pretty fast. Occasionally it was too big a temptation. One of the hardest things about the con for us was that there was no handicap ramp between the two hotels. So, every change of hotel for an event we had to put Jon back in the truck and drive over. That took time, and meant I was a few minutes late for a few things. But we made it, eventually.

By Saturday night Jon was hurting so badly that he chose to be a grown-up and stay in the room while I helped judge the masquerade. One of the things that contributed to him being a grown-up about it was him getting us to a signing an hour early, because he looked at his watch wrong. As I listened to him interact with the fans that were in already in line, I realized that the pain killers had hit. We finally got free of the early line and promised to come back on time, but Daven got to help Jon do his end of the line. Because Jon was loopy on pain meds. Happy, but loopy. But it was either loopy on pain meds, or hurting too badly to function well. We had to weigh that choice all convention.

So, Charles, his wife Kathy, (who got to join us for Saturday and Sunday) Wendi, Daven, and I, went off to see the costumes. Jon was tucked up in bed with a book, the telly, and pain meds. The dress I was wearing had no pockets, of course, and Kathy was kind enough to offer to carry some stuff for me in her pockets. I’d forgotten to bring a small purse, and the briefcase seemed a bit much.

The masquerade was amazing, and hard to choose winners among so many wonderful creations. It took over three hours to see it all, and judge it all, so by the time it was all over, though we had invites for parties, I had to check on Jon. He was fine, in fact feeling much better for having elevated his knee for all that time. He’d also watched six episodes of South Park, and COPS.

Charles and Kathy went off to do the room parties while the rest of us stayed in and talked, so that Jon could continue to prop his knee up, and we could still visit. I think Wendi had changed her knitting project by that time. I have really got to get myself a hobby of some kind. The knitting was cool because you can take it where ever you go. Charles’s hobbies are too big too travel, cars and motorcycles and such. Though, knitting isn’t my thing, I’ve tried it, and trust me, you want me to sew or knit about as much as you want me to give you directions. Which means, not at all.

Sunday arrived and Daven and Wendi had to catch a plane back home. Kathy took them to the airport and suddenly it was just Jon, Charles, and me. We had another signing to do, and Jon did not take his meds so he could do his job at the signing. After the signing my arm hurt enough I could not push the wheelchair (this was my third signing for the con), so Charles got to do chair duty. Yes, it lowered his tactical advantage a little, but with one arm, I just couldn’t do it. I missed my minions.

Up before Dawn

I was on the treadmill while it was still black dark outside this morning. When I finished forty-five minutes later, it was dawn. The early start was worth it. It is now 11:36 and I have fifteen pages on one project, that was due like now, and I’m only two pages from doing the six pages that I need to do for SKIN TRADE. All before lunch. Wow. I can work late at night, but exercise just isn’t happening once everyone else is in bed, but first thing in the morning, maybe. One day does not a pattern make, but we’ll see if early rising is a way to fit everything in that is on my plate. Fingers-crossed.

7th Anniversary

Happy Michaelmas. It’s the feast of Saint Michael and all the Arch Angels today. It’s also our anniversary. Today, Jon and I are officially seven years married. I was going to buy something shiny and engrave it for him, but then his bad knee went even more bad than normal. He’s scheduled for knee surgery just after Archon, so instead of something shiny that he could put in his pocket, I decided for a more practical gift. His X-box 360 had died. The red ring of death had gotten it. Since he’s going to be about six weeks on crutches I decided that replacing his gaming system was a better gift. Oh, and a few new games: Dynasty Warriors 6, LEGO Batman, and Star Wars: The Force Unleashed. I’m not giving away the surprise; I had Jon go with me to pick everything out. The last time I tried it on my own I came back with something that didn’t work with our set up, so the deal now if I’m buying electronics he comes with, and that way everything is exactly the way he wants it. So, while he’s six weeks on crutches he’ll have his game system.

He bought me something electronic, too, and has already given it to me. It’s a Garmin. It’s one of those navigation systems that can be put into cars that don’t come with one already installed. The Truck has one. The Baby does not. I know that some of our friends feel that if you own a car like that you shouldn’t need a tech crutch, but those are also people that probably won’t ask directions if they’re lost,or maybe they don’t get lost. I live in perpetual confusion without my nav computer. Jon is going to help me hook the Garmin up to the Mustang so that I can drive it to places that I don’t know how to get to. My sense of direction in a city scape is pretty poor, always has been. This way, I can drive the Baby without fear of getting lost. We both have one more surprise present for each other. I’ll tell you guys tomorrow what mine, for him, is, but if I tell today he might look at the blog and the surprise would be ruined. I’ve kept my mouth shut for weeks, I’m not spoiling it now.

I tried to find a quote to leave you with, but no one else’s words seemed quite right. So, I’ll make a attempt myself. Describing the indescribable is what I do most days, I guess.

To love successfully, is to love more today than yesterday. It is knowing that sometimes the most romantics words in the world are not, I love you, or sweet nothings, but, "Don’t worry about it, I’ll do it." For love, true love, is a partnership. It is two individuals who together make a bigger whole, and a better person together than they were apart. To be truly, madly, deeply, in love is to understand that romance consists not just of lingerie and sweaty forgetfulness between the sheets, but in getting up each day and being there for each other. Being there on days when nothing goes right, and everything goes wrong, but even at the worst of times you’d rather be with this man, this person, beside you, than anyone else. Love is working together when it’s hard, so that on the days when it seems effortless and more beautiful than seems possible you know you earned this moment. You know that both of you, worked, and sweated, and loved, and earned it. You fall into love, like a trip down the stairs. You stay in love by being able to catch each other, and make sure the accident is worth the bruises.

Seven years and counting; so glad we caught each other on the stairs.

LKH Bit 09/28/08

Swallowing Darkness Arc Auctions, Swallowing Darkness Arc Giveaway, The Laughing Corpse Comic, Wolf Howl, Dance St. Louis, Archon
SWALLOWING DARKNESS ARC AUCTIONS
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We have 3 arc?s to auction for Swallowing Darkness. One for Granite City APA, one for Midwest Pug Rescue and one for the Wolf Sanctuary.
The auctions end October 6, 2008.
Granite City APA ? Item #: 140271450499
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=140271450499
Midwest Pug Rescue ? Item #; 140271449011
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=140271449011
Wild Canid Survival And Research Center ? Wolf Sanctuary Item#: 140271451421
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=140271451421
SWALLOWING DARKNESS GIVEAWAY
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We will be giving away one copy of Swallowing Darkness via an email contest.
This contest is open to all! Send an email to:
contest@laurellkhamilton.org
Please include your name and address in the body of the email.
One entry per person.
Should you win, and the postal service returns your package as undeliverable an alternate winner will be chosen.
Foreign entries are welcome.
Fan club members and board moderators may enter this drawing. There is a separate drawing for an arc of all the fan club members at the close of this contest. The only people exempt are, well Laurell, Jon and Darla.
The publisher will be running a separate giveaway, which we will share the details of as soon as we get them.
THE LAUGHING CORPSE COMIC
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The first issue of The Laughing Corpse will be out Wednesday! Don?t forget to run by your favorite comic store.
WOLF HOWL
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The Wolf Howl will be Thursday October 30 at 7PM at the Wild Canid Survival and Research Center.
Tickets are $20 per person. All monies raised go to the Wolf Sanctuary. There is a limit of 100 tickets for this event.
We will also be raffling a signed copy of Swallowing Darkness. Which is the book Laurell will also be reading from.
Tickets go on sale Wednesday October 1 at 9AM. You can get tickets by calling the Sanctuary at Phone: (636)-938-5900 and ask for Pam.
DANCE ST. LOUIS
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Recap and a slight update!
Sunday October 26th, 1:15 for the pre-talk by Laurell. Ballet begins at 2PM. Meet and greet afterwards.
How much are the tickets for the ballet?
$25-$55 general public, $33-$53 students/seniors, $32-$51 groups of 20 or more.
When do they go on sale?
You can get them now. See below for ordering information.
What time does the meet and greet start?
Following the performance, so we?re pegging it from 4 to 5 p.m.
How much are the tickets for the meet and greet?
$5 per person in addition to purchase of a performance ticket.
What exactly will occur during the meet and greet ie food, music etal.
We?re planning on complimentary water, lemonade, and simple snacks like chips, and also an open cash bar. We will be having a raffle of a signed copy of Swallowing Darkness during the Meet and Greet also. We are working on what else will happen. So stay tuned for that.
How can fans order tickets for each event?
Online via dancestlouis.org or by calling the Dance St. Louis box office at 314.534.6622. St. Louis-area fans can also visit our box office in person from 9:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. Monday-Friday, located at the Centene Center for Arts and Education in the Grand Center neighborhood, 3547 Olive Street.
All the monies raised will go to Dance St. Louis.
ARCHON
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Archon is this coming weekend! Laurell will be Guest Of Honor at Archon. As soon as we have a completed schedule (hopefully sometime this week) we will post it at:
https://www.laurellkhamilton.com/Laurell/LKHSightings.htm
That’s it for this bit!
Darla

Progress Report

SKIN TRADE: Progress report:

Seven pages today. Ten pages yesterday. Finally in a scene where I know what will be happening next, so I don’t have to bang my head against the wall tomorrow. Anita and Edward are deep into the mystery. This will be the first book where Anita has teamed up with Edward where they both had badges. It’s making things both easier, and harder. Easier to work with the police and get some respect. Harder to do anything outside the law and get information from the wereanimal community, or vampires. Hard for them to trust a bunch of people whose job it is to execute them on sight, if the paperwork is in order.

Harlan Ellison Did Not Make Me Cry

Where do these rumors get started? Harlan Ellison did not make me cry. I don’t believe he could. One, I find him charming; always have. But having said that there are cavets to his charm. If you are offended by foul language you will not enjoy Harlan’s conversation. But since I am not offended by strong language, and in fact, use it myself, it’s cool by me. People sometimes think he is abrupt and take that as unkindness. I can also be abrupt, and know it for just wanting to get things said, or done. I do remember the panel that we shared, I believe at Dragon Con. He was his usual self, which means entertaining, harsh, but he burns on stage, very, very on. He is a bright light, sort of like a harsher version, and less frantic of Robin Williams. It was the last day of Dragon Con for Jon and I. Something in the air vents of our room had given us both allergy hang-overs. I was wearing the black t-shirt, and letting my hair do it’s thing, because we were going home that day. In fact, Harlan remarked on how much hair I had. I said yes, and fluffed it around and taught him a word he did not know. Fessoning, which is what it’s called when someone with long hair uses the head shake to get the hair to settle behind their shoulders, or anywhere, I guess. I took it as a mark of pride that I could teach him a new word since his vocabulary is frightening in size. Yes, he did pick on me, but it’s a mark of honor to be picked on by Harlan Ellison, because he only picks at you if he thinks you are capable of defending yourself verbally and mentally. He does not waste his time challenging the unarmed. To cross verbal swords with Harlan is a compliment. My one complaint, he is a terrible microphone hog, but it didn’t come as a surprise. It’s Harlan. He did say something late in the panel, and if I had heard it, I would have said something back, but, my hand to God, I didn’t hear it.(People told me later what he said. No I will not print it here. He apologized later.) He was sitting beside me, we were trying to share a microphone, but I did not hear it. My end of the table had gone to a quiet humming place in my head, where I hoped that the allergy hang-over would eventually abate. It didn’t by the way. The allergy shots have made my life sooo much better. But getting back to that one panel with Harlan. He apologized after the panel, just in case anything he’d said, I’d taken the wrong way. I had not. But an apology from Harlan Ellison is a rare and valuable thing, and I treasure it. So, in conclusion; Harlan did not make me cry. But because the rumor seems to have legs, here is what Harlan has requested we put up somewhere that fans can read it. So, here it is, Harlan Ellison’s note on my blog. Let me fan girl just a second; It’s Harlan Ellison!

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HARLAN ELLISON
– Friday, September 12 2008 11:26:46
REPLY TO PAM CROSSLAND

Dear Pam: I must hasten to disabuse you of a misconception. Not only have I NEVER made Laurell Hamilton cry, I think she is a very very nice woman, and I commend her success. I am not a fan of vampire stories. Literarily-speaking, I think it has been–for decades–a Spent Force, now bereft of virtually all but aficionado interest. The genre is popular as hell, but it leaves me cold. That’s just me: I have a few personal favorite vampire stories, but all of them are at least a decade or three old…I haven’t paid any attention to that sub-genre in years’n’years, purposely. But please mark this: it has nothing to do with Laurell or her work. I have no dog in that hunt, so I would never say anything that might make her smile OR cry; I am witless on the subject.

The one time Laurell and I had more than a passing hiya, kiddo, a wave, and a smile, was when we were on the same panel at some convention or other, quite a while ago, and I said pretty much what I just reiterated. Laurell wasn’t over-the-top in love with my comments, naturally; I mean, after all, it IS her metier; but the exchange between us was absolutely affable, she was uncommonly charming and gracious and forgiving of my opinion, and ever since we have exchanged pleasantries and notes on a number of occasions.

Laurell K. Hamilton, thus, is peaches in my book. I have many auctorial friends whose work is not my banquet, but it isn’t hard to separate Person from Work if there is mutual respect.

So, no, I never made Laurell cry, and hope never to do so.

Somebody might want to copy the above and send it where it’ll hit Laurell’s attention. I’d appreciate that, on just the off-chance that what Pam had heard is a "Chinese Whispers" recurrence.

Yr. Pal, Harlan

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